Happy Monday. How about a peek behind the scenes of The Royal Tenenbaums to start your week?
More behind the scenes shots from more movies here.
here’s to all the quiet queers.
all the queers who eat micro-agressions and secretly cry themselves to sleep.
the queers who dress the way their cis mothers told them to.
the queers who think about killing cis fucks every half hour, but never say a word more radical than “sorry.”
the queers who sip tea at their friend’s house while considering suicide, since that’s just about all they can think about.
the queers who are living double lives.
the queers who put on makeup at 2 a.m. in a hand mirror, making sure to wipe it off before school the next morning.
the queers who go to work dead and come home to see the world.
the queers who fuck, and suck, and kiss with the same hands and lips they use to eat dinner with their well-meaning shitty-acting parents
the queers who are ugly to you, too fat for you, running from you with lips sewn shut
here’s to the quiet queers, since it’s about fucking time we stopped shaming them.
Harry Stamps just might be the most interesting man in the world. I want to meet people like him.
Read his full BAMF obituary here. (h/t to Jer Fugleberg)
I can only hope that when my time comes, my obituary is this awesome.
I am done with ‘love is love’.
I am done with pictures of two young men holding hands.
I am done with same-sex wedding pictures.
(Don’t get me started on gay soldiers.)
They are the gay equivalent of the white seal pup used to sell environmentalism.
They are the easy way out.
They are the non-confrontational option.
They ask for minimum tolerance, not full acceptance.
You know what I want?
SEX IS SEX, no matter how I fuck or with how many.
GENITALS ARE GENITALS, no matter if they fit your manual.
I SHAPE MY BODY AS I SEE FIT.
I PEE IN ANY BATHROOM I CHOOSE.
I AM THE GENDER I SAY I AM, and you had better fucking respect it.
(don’t get me started on recognition and visibility)
You know what else I want?
I want us to put the weakest in our organizations first.
I want us to fight for the homeless queer youth,
for the aging queers dependent on the care of others,
for the sick, the unemployed, the lonely, the victims of rape.
For the ones fighting more than one form of oppression.
And when they know that they are loved, they are cared for, they are believed, they are safe and they are at home in our movement.
and only then,
Will I cheer for your big white wedding.
I want us to put the weakest in our organizations first.
Super fucking relevant. I want the “LGBT” movement to become the GSD (gender and sexual diversities) movement, to become intersectional, to support the people who don’t have the privilege to fight for their own rights and dignity.
Programme for April 30
Abdication of Her Majesty the Queen in the Moseszaal of the Royal Palace Amsterdam. Those present will include the Presidents of the Senate and the House of Representatives, the Council of Ministers for the…
disclaimer: other queer people can and do disagree with me, blah blah blah
- do you identify as an ally? do you claim that as a title?
- do you support SBNN?
- are you adamant the A in longer LGBTA+ initialisms stands for ‘ally’?
- do you feel excluded when the A is not used or said not to be for ‘ally’?
- have you ever referenced your lgbt friends as a defence when someone calls you out on something?
- do you think dan savage is a positive role model?
- do you think heterophobia is almost as bad or equal to homophobia?
- do you get angry when queer people are “mean” to straight allies?
- do you hate being called “cis”?
- have you ever “come out” as an ally?
- do you think queer people being mean to straight allies about their allyship is bullying?
- have you ever ignored criticisms levelled at straight people so you don’t have to deal with them?
- do you think straight people have a right to be present in queer spaces?
- do you think “cishet” is an insult?
- do you use slurs like “dyke” or “f*g or t****y”, even affectionately?
- do you think it’s ever appropriate to offer an unsolicited opinion into a discussion of queer issues?
- have you ever used things you learned in your college queer theory course to counter the lived experience of queer people?
- do you ever use your fandom ships to argue for lgbtq rights?
- do you dodge confirming/making it obvious that you’re straight when talking about queer issues?
- do you think it’s appropriate for straight people to lead queer organisations?
- have you ever purposefully misgendered someone?
- do you believe blogs ‘calling out’ queer people created in response to blogs calling out allies appropriate/fair response?
- do you claim not to “see gender” or “see sexuality”?
- do you routinely start posts/sentences with: “as a straight ally…”
- do you expect to be rewarded for being an ally?
- do you get personally offended at posts addressing straight people in general, or feel those are personal attacks?
- do you expect not to have to deal with criticism while engaging in “ally activism”?
- do you claim to be queer by merit of your allyship?
if you answered ‘yes’ to any of these, you need to try harder
- do you check the post on lgbtq issues is written by a queer person before reblogging?
- do you go out of your way to reblog commentary from queer people rather than straight people?
- if you engage in tumblr activity around oppression, do you state clearly somewhere on your blog that you’re straight and cis?
- do you research charities before donating/spreading information about them?
- do you support queer-only spaces?
if you answered ‘no’ to any of these, you need to try harder
Update in Yesterday’s Signal Boost.
With English subtitles for those of us with little to no knowledge of the Dutch language :)
you beautiful woman you